Finding out what one really wants may need some effort but it’s the only way to grow. Visualize dreams, ask empowering questions, decide what needs to be done in order to make it happen.
“The power to magically transform our lives into our greatest dreams lies within all of us,” says life coach Anthony Robbins. According to this belief system, the only limitations are those that are set by the individual.
Do What you Want, Ask Questions to Change your Life
The first and most difficult step to change your life is knowing what you want. Ask the right questions, explains A. Robbins, and sooner or later, the right answer will filter through. Imagine for a moment that everything is possible, what is the ultimate dream? Is it about career, relationships, money, leisure? Whatever it is, give it shape, set out every detail in the mind’s eye and imagine what life would be like if the dream came true.
So, what’s stopping you? Lack of time, energy, money, qualifications, children? In most cases, these are merely excuses to keep to a dull but reassuring routine. Pull down the barriers, one by one. How can you find more time, get more energy, earn more money, gain qualifications, delegate? Every question has an answer but make sure the dream is really yours and be aware that there’s always a price to pay, money or otherwise. How far are you prepared to go? Answer honestly for that is the crucial question.
Making Decisions and Positive Thinking
If making decisions is difficult, start gently. Small changes can make a big difference, taking a different route to work, choosing what to watch on TV, going out once a week. What little thing could you change today to improve your life? Do it, and again tomorrow and the next day. The more you practice, the easier it gets
Make positive thinking the number one life changing habit. That means choosing the right words, spoken or in the mind, and letting them create new patterns in the brain. The subconscious is powerful. Ban anything negative, don’t even say ‘I could’ or ‘I’ll try’, that’s weak, choose ‘I will’, that’s a decision, repeat it every day and intuition will find a way. Once the decision has been made, don’t hesitate or look back, just make it work.
Goal Setting, Action and Flexibility
When confidence and excitement begin to grow, it’s time to tackle the big dream. Take a sheet of paper, list the old excuses, ask the right questions, brainstorm and write down the answers, however weird or unlikely. They may not come all at once but stay positive, sleep on it and they will come.
Now plan the route, what will be done, how, when, step by step, and start straightaway. Procrastination leads nowhere and a goal is nothing until one acts on it. Persevere, give it a good shot, but if it doesn’t work out, move on and develop a new game plan. Flexibility is important, one door closes, another opens. Try again, ask different questions, find new answers and keep going until you get what you want.